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This section contains four topics:
(a) Managing the Tawil webpage
(b) Objections to the content
(c) Viviane’s slander concerning facts
(d) Your need for facades

(a) Managing the Tawil webpage
Aline’s younger sister, Viviane Tawil, lives in Canada, and I recently asked her (in September 2022) if she could be the manager for the new chapter concerning her family. It is one of the four families from which Aline and I are descendants. This is how I explained it: https://petrosharitatos.wordpress.com/abyssos-exo-mesa/ta-sogia/
<< Concernant les familles Tawil et Colas de la Noue, elles
disposent chacune de son propre chapitre (7i10et 7i20). C’est donc à
un ou deux membres de chaque famille, de prendre l’initiative
concernant la méthode et les interlocuteurs.>>

And this was my suggestion to Viviane:
<< If you, Viviane, decided to start on the Tawil side, I am sure that you would create something very good, since everybody knows and likes you. What makes the task easy (and agreeable) is that it is clearly not a time-demanding «scientific dissertation» but simply a collection of memories which add up and -lo and behold- show a fascinating scene.>>

Viviane replied why she could not manage it: <<With regards to your web page, I cannot help you very much. As I already told you, being the youngest of the family, I was not part of the activities of my brothers and sisters.  After the revolution, I was not privy to much information for obvious reasons, and thus do not have much information on the family.>>

(b) Viviane’s objections to the content
<< Moreover regarding your section on Aline, I consider your publication of the letters of my parents and her friends as a lack of respect for her memory. She was a very private person who I believe would not have appreciated having personal information put out for all to see. 

To add to it, your posting the picture of Aline dead has been haunting me.  She was such a lovely person, and everyone would like to remember her dancing in the rain rather that grimacing in death. 
We all know and understand your feeling of loss, but it may have been a better way to publish happy pictures of Aline and respect her memory.>>

(c) Viviane’s slander concerning facts
It is slanderous to write about «posting the picture of Aline dead» when the photo clearly shows an expression of strong pain, and the caption explains it in THREE languages, to avoid any such deliberate misunderstanding, which amounts to slander:
– 2022, αρχές Ιανουαρίου: Η Αλίν πονάει αφόρητα, παρά τα ισχυρά αναλγητικά. Ζητά να τής κάνω ευθανασία… «Μα δεν έχεις τη δύναμη» λέει.
«Τότε σού ζητώ να δείξεις το μαρτύριο που υποφέρω, διότι δεν με βοηθάτε να πεθάνω ειρηνικά».
– 2022, early January. Αline is hurting intolerably, despite the powerful painkillers. She asks me to euthanize her… «But you are not strong enough» she says. «Therefore I ask you to show the torture I feel, because you don’t help me to die in peace».
– 2022, début janvier: Aline a très mal, ses douleurs sont intolérables, malgré les médicaments ultra-puissants. Elle me demande de l’euthanasier… «Mais tu n’est pas assez fort», dit-elle, «donc je te demande de montrer la torture que je subis, parce que vous ne m’aidez pas a mourir en paix».

Aline insisted on showing this specific photo, because we both agreed that we should not conceal such tortures. She also insisted on my euthanizing her, and scolded me for not having the guts to do it. She already knew that I had failed in a similar dilemma during my father’s last days.

(d) Your need for facades
Aline has always been my joy and happiness. Υou see this in 99% of the photos and everything else on the website. And far from being «a very private person» as you say, Viviane, everything shows that she was very sociable and liked by everyone.
I agree that the photo that disturbs you is scary. Because it shows a sharp pain which leads to an ugly death. It is normal for anyone to think that maybe later you might find yourself in her position, or in my position. And it is normal to recoil from such a scary possibility. But it is slanderous to write that I published a photo that shows her dead.

As for the personal correspondence to which you object, the plain fact is that Aline asked me to do the opposite of what you want. She gave me boxes and boxes of photos and correspondence which she asked me to publish. To show the tenderness of your mother, the slyness of your father, the joking with her friends. This is the real Aline, and not the façade you would like to see. 

Τώρα έχεις δύο επιλογές:
α) Προχωράς στα επόμενα:
«7j40. Τα ‘θέλω’ δεν είναι όλα εφικτά / Not all our ‘wants’ are achievable»
β) Επιστρέφεις από εκεί που ήρθες:
«7j. συμπεράσματα & διάλογοι / conclusions & discussions»